Mumsnet

I’m not supposed to mention any names, or threads, or quotes.  Apparently I might offend.  Nothing about those who have offended me.  It seems that if you are attacked, you are not supposed to defend yourself.  I agree that it is bad form doing a thread on Mumsnet about another thread.  But a blog is where you are supposed to be able to tell your innermost thoughts and feelings.  Someone described it as an online diary.  It has also been suggested that it is in the public domain, so it’s not really a diary at all.  Well actually you can’t just come across a blog, you have to look for it.  You either follow a link or you google for it.  It’s not the same as Active Conversations on Mumsnet.  And you know what?  Neither myself nor Custy named threads or Mumsnetters, her blog is as general as mine is, with around 1% of the entire blog focused on Mumsnet, the rest is just stuff we like to write about.

You know, there used to be a time on Mumsnet when you would have a barney with someone one week, and then be having a laugh with them the next.  Grudges were never borne.  Occasionally you’d get someone starting another thread to carry on the argument, but this was pretty rare and even they would forget about it the following week.  But now threads are saved and passed on by MSN from Mumsnetter to Mumsnetter, fuelling this resentment, anger and paranoia.  Nothing is forgotten.

You can be torn apart on Mumsnet, but if you try to hold out an olive branch, you are accused of playing the Martyrdom card, if you defend yourself you are accused of enjoying the negative attention and not letting it drop.  Well I’m sorry but we are real people and we will not be hounded off Mumsnet by bullies. 

I’ve been more hurt recently by threads on Mumsnet than I care to admit to.  Hurt on behalf of a dear friend who I had to watch being torn apart by a pack of wolves, then hurt when they turned on me.  Custy thankfully can stick up for herself and give as good as she gets.  I’m afraid I let them get to me.  I even thought about deleting this whole blog because I didn’t want these people to see a picture of my children, or to read about my family or knowing anything about me.  But why should they have that satisfaction?

I have things in real life to sort out.  So I’m taking a break and reminding myself of what is important.  Not a website where people who don’t know me, have never even met me, feel they can trundle out accusations and insults at me.  None of this shit is real.  It’s just a pc and those who waste their time keeping score on Mumsnet obviously have problems of their own to deal with.  And you know what?  I’ll probably forget their names in a month, I certainly don’t keep a score of who’s said what, I wonder if the same can be said about them?

And if you don’t like what you are reading here, well then don’t visit my blog.  Because this is MY space.  And I can talk about anything I like on here.  This has upset me so why the fuck shouldn’t I rant about it here, on MY space?

~ by rhubarb1 on May 19, 2008.